Loosening Our Grip

Back in July when I learned my family of 20 might all be in the same place at the same time come September, I did a little happy dance. This would be a treat we rarely get to have, mostly because 6 of us live in England and 6 in Florida.

As the visit approached, we were especially eager since the 9 young cousins were finally old enough to begin engaging in ways that wouldn’t fade by the time they gathered again:

9 cousinsL to R: Skylar (6) holding Isaac (7 months), Nicholas (5) holding Andrew (15 months), Micah (4), Evelyn (4), Thomas (4), Autumn (2), Emerald ( 23 months).

One thing high on my list of priorities was to get a picture of all 20 of us together, and with a camera inside every phone, I figured that wasn’t asking too much. I even talked to Mary about it. “Hey,” she said. “Your family is already on Stina’s list for the wedding photographer, so it’ll be easy!”

My heart soared.

That, however, was when God entered the conversation, prompting me to think along other lines. “I want you to surrender that picture,” he said. “Let go of that goal.”

“Why?” I said. “It’s coming together effortlessly!”

He gave no reason, but my strong sense was that I should follow his instructions. When I shared with Mary she said, “Oh don’t worry. It’ll get done. You’ll see.”

Sometimes God does this kind of thing though. He waits till we really, REALLY want something badly, then asks us to hand it over to him for what appears to be no good reason.

A picture is a small thing compared to many other things (or people) we could long for, but in my heart I really wanted it. Nevertheless, I began talking myself down. “So, what’s the worst thing that will happen if you don’t get the picture? It won’t be the end of the world, will it? Just do what God wants. If it doesn’t happen, at least you will have been prepared.”

And so, after a good deal of mental haranguing, I gave it up…. just as the stomach flu arrived. On the wedding day, Stina’s photographer did line us up for a picture, but it was less than satisfying, since 2 were home sick. But I heard God whisper, “Being prepared made it easier, didn’t it?” As always, he was right.

The next day, Mary and Bervin invited everyone to return to the wedding site for brunch and a baseball game. Even the bride and groom were there, and we were all enjoying the day when someone said, “Hey, Nymans. How ‘bout a family photo, since you’re all here today?”

Our familyAnd isn’t that just like God? When we surrender something we badly want, he often gives it right back to us.

“Nothing…. will ever be able to separate us from the love of God.” (Romans 8:39)

11 thoughts on “Loosening Our Grip

  1. This is a fabulous family photo. I’m glad everything worked out.
    I love how you add the Scriptures, to everyday activities.
    Thanks, once again, for sharing all the photos, too. Hugs.

  2. And everyone was more relaxed, with the little ones not so stressed during wedding stuff. Maybe sometime you can tell us exactly who belongs to who (whom?). Great picture! And God supplied over and above anything you could ask or think. He’s like that, isn’t He?

  3. Thanks so much for your words of wisdom. I always enjoy your blog and the message you share but, I REALLY needed today’s message. God spoke to me through you. Blessings.

  4. Margaret, I definitely remember that day and how grateful you were to have the photo taken. I did not know the whole story! You write so beautifully! It was a great time! Fun to meet your family. KB

  5. Goodness, these are timely posts for me.
    Great picture of a wonderful family. 🙂
    Love,
    Terry

  6. What a wonderful message–also how happy to have cousins together–yes, they will treasure the memories–the picture will help remind them (and everyone else) of the special blessing of being together as family! Prayers for one and all, Judi

  7. Such a great post, and it’s too true! God does that often. Wonderful photo of you all!