In Sync With God

Yesterday Birgitta was programmed toward her university, excited that the 5 hour drive would reunite her with friends and put her into a summer school course she wanted to take. But as she sped down the center lane of an Illinois toll road headed for Iowa, her life was put on the line.

The sky-blue, 1994 Honda Accord she and Louisa have shared since 2007 has safely transported them over 72,000 miles, most of it at high speed. But yesterday that same car nearly took Birgitta’s life.

A corroded hood latch let loose, sending the hood sailing up and back with such force it smashed the entire windshield, depositing glass shards in her lap and at her feet, cracking the car roof and shaping it into a V.

But worse than that was the terror of hurtling down the highway blind, with the hood cemented to the windshield. Although she doesn’t remember what happened in the next critical seconds, she does remember screaming at the earsplitting bang of the hood impacting the glass.

Somehow she kept her head and swung left (as she said, “without looking”), and landed on the shoulder, heart pounding and tears flowing.

I was in a store 15 miles away without my phone (left in the car), but God was on the scene. Within minutes he placed a helpful policeman and a highway assistance-truck on either side of her, and by the time I arrived, Birgitta was calmer than both men. They were remembering similar accidents with far different outcomes, and they told us so. The situation might easily have included an ambulance, a hospital or a funeral home.

An hour later, sitting in a body shop waiting room, we learned our reliable Accord with 217,000 faithful miles on it would cost double its value to fix. But Joey, the estimator, remembered us (especially Nate) from multiple prior car repairs and kindly waived his tow truck’s fee.

So we shifted Birgitta’s dorm room cargo from her car to mine, said goodbye to her driving independence, and drove to Iowa.

Some might say, “How could God let that happen?” The better question is, “Why did he bless us so lavishly?”

  • Birgitta was unharmed!
  • No other cars or passengers were involved.
  • It occurred before she’d driven too far from home.
  • Help arrived within minutes.
  • Although she’d misplaced her driver’s license last week and couldn’t produce it, the policeman didn’t ticket her.
  • The tow truck happened to come from the body shop of our family’s car history.
  • Joey remembered us and waived the $135 fee.
  • I received one extra day with my daughter.

As we left the body shop, Joey said to Birgitta, “You shouldn’t be here right now. With your kind of luck, I’d go play the lottery!” But of course luck had nothing to do with it.

Although God doesn’t prevent every accident, this time his choice and mine had been in perfect sync.

“The eyes of the Lord are everywhere, keeping watch…” (Proverbs 15:3a)

Shuffling Along

When plans go awry, we shuffle our thinking and come up with a new plan. Birgitta and I have spent our day shuffling, trying to catch up with unplanned events.

Her plan was to drive her car from Chicago to the University of Iowa today,  to begin an eight week summer school course. But tonight her car has been sold as junk.

My plan was to head from Chicago back to Michigan. But tonight, at 1:00 am, I am typing in Iowa City, Iowa.

Jack’s plan was to be sleeping in Michigan tonight, after a romp on the beach. But  he’s bedded down  in a “doggie designated room” in a Days Inn in Iowa.

I’m on and off www.GettingThroughThis.com just long enough to let you know I’ll explain tomorrow.

Pinpoint Pain

When we’re in pain, we think of little else. I remember Nate arriving home from work early one day, 6 months before he died. We knew nothing of his cancer but were aggressively seeking relief for his throbbing back.

When he walked in, I could see the pain on his face and didn’t have to ask why he’d cut his day short after only 4 hours. “This hurts so bad I can’t think straight,” he said, moving toward the bed with an ice pack.

All of us have experienced pinpoint pain that yanked our minds from what we were doing and focused them on our misery. I remember the jolt of an abscess tooth so painful it threw me backwards. As it continued to escalate, I longed to feel pain somewhere else, anywhere but in that one, specific spot. That’s exactly how Nate felt.

I have several friends who live with chronic, pinpoint pain. They tell me pain management therapy has helped them cope by teaching ways to think around the pain instead of within it. The intensity doesn’t disappear, but through specific brain-tricks, they learn to think differently about it. The brain is retrained, so to speak, in an attempt to fool it into feeling hurt less.

Maybe it’s possible for our brains to take a pinpoint of intense pain and spread it throughout the body like we might stir a spoonful of dark chocolate syrup into milk, turning white to tan as the chocolate dissolves. Most of us prefer diffused pain over concentrated.

The apostle Paul, a guy who wrote most of the New Testament, was an example of someone who struggled with pain, repeatedly begging God to take it away. After all, he’d given his life to promoting the Gospel and saving souls. Surely God wouldn’t hamper that eternal work by adding the weight of physical pain. Wouldn’t that be risking the success of the mission?

But God thinks differently than we do. He listened to Paul’s pleas for relief but gave him a “no.” Amazingly, Paul accepted this huge disappointment without objection and went one step further, acknowledging it could be a tool in God’s hands to teach him something. He had become famous as a learned speaker and intelligent debater and was worried about his pride.

When God insisted he live with pain, Paul knew it was in his best interest, an astounding response. But leaning harder into God for the skill to think apart from pain and successfully focus on spreading the Gospel turned out to be a faith-booster. And it never harmed the mission.

Might it work the same for us?

It didn’t for Nate, but God had a different idea for him. Rather than make him an example of strength-through-weakness like Paul, he decided to terminate the situation completely with a tool called cancer. Crescendoing pain burst into oblivion, and Nate became pain-free.

And Paul? He eventually got his wish, too.

The Lord… said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for power is perfected in weakness.” (2Corinthians 12:9)