Careful Watching

This afternoon I watched 5 young children race down the dune and into Lake Michigan’s gentle waves without a moment’s hesitation or a backward glance. Although they seemed to be in the 6-8 year range, no adult was following. No one was shouting, “Wait till I get there!”

Watching them cavort in chin-deep water, I was reminded of my own childhood and similar unsupervised water play at the same beach. When Mary and I grew up and had children ourselves, they also splashed freely there from sun-up to sun-down.

Whenever we had young babies, we’d arrive at the beach on the “early shift” so that by mid-afternoon our little ones could be back home for naps. If Mom was at the cottage too, she was always willing to listen for the nappers so Mary and I could head back to the waterfront alone.

One summer afternoon in 1975, while our little ones were sleeping with their grandma in charge, Mary and I went back to the beach to luxuriate in some time without any children. All of a sudden Mary said, “Hey… Look down the beach. Isn’t that Nelson and Julia wading into the water?”

Nelson and Julia

Sure enough, the 2 two-year-olds we’d put to bed not long before were wading into the water dressed in their cloth diapers and rubber pants. We ran down and collected them, then headed home to get the story from Mom.

“They weren’t tired,” she said, “and wanted to go back to the beach. So I pointed them in the right direction and hoped they’d find you.”

This meant walking 5 blocks (and making two correct turns), climbing a big dune (paved), and walking down 100 concrete steps to the sand where we were sitting amidst many others. Somehow these little ones did that, though it was unsettling watching them walk into the water unaccompanied.

Steps

But then again, it was typical Mom. When we asked if she’d been worried they might not make it, she said, “Oh, but they did.”

This grandma was a risk-taker. She’d sent them off “hoping” they’d reach the beach and find us, but if not, “hoping” another mother would step in and help. And behind all of that shaky logic, she believed Julia and Nelson had guardian angels watching over them.

God is not a risk-taker like Mom was. He doesn’t have to be, because he’s omniscient. He’s 100% capable of watching over children because his future knowledge is complete. Mom “hoped” everything would work out, but she wasn’t sure. God, on the other hand, is always sure. And he has legions of angels to do his bidding.

As for that little gang of young swimmers I saw today, I watched for quite a while. Somewhere an adult was probably “hoping” they’d be OK at the beach, and amazingly, it all worked out fine.

“Be careful that you never despise a single one of these little ones — for I tell you that they have angels who see my Father’s face continually in Heaven.”  (Matthew 18:10)

What’s the Story?

I love a love story and especially enjoy hearing how husbands and wives first met. Very often a man and woman are brought together in the most unusual of ways and frequently from faraway places.

Adam and LinneaKaty and Hans

For example, our daughter Linnea (who grew up in the Chicago suburbs) met her husband Adam (from central Florida) while they were both in Youth With A Mission (in Kona, Hawaii). Son Hans (from the same Midwest suburbs) met wife Katy (from England) while they were in a YWAM training school (in New Zealand).

Brooke and Klaus

Klaus left well-populated Chicago and moved to our tiny Michigan town where he met his true love Brooke. None of these six would have met without these unusual story lines.

Nate and Meg

Nate and I met during college, though we didn’t attend the same school. My girlfriend (at Wheaton College) and his guy friend (at Northwestern University) were engaged, and the two of them brought the two of us together on a blind date. Without our friendships with those particular students, he and I would never have met. If we interviewed 1,000 married couples, no two stories would be alike.

So…. does God have a part in all this? I like to believe he puts together these complicated scenarios to cause people to meet, sometimes setting the particulars in place many years before, in order for that one meeting to take place. After all, he’s a God who cares about the details.

Gayle and Mark

One of my favorite love story meetings happened to my neighbor’s sister, but it didn’t begin with special chemistry or sparks flying. It all started when she had a brain aneurysm and lost consciousness. That’s a negative way to begin a positive story, but because of that aneurysm, Gayle had to postpone her plans for a trip to Europe with her girlfriend.

Four months later, fully recovered and feeling much better, Gayle and her friend embarked on their journey abroad. It was on that sight-seeing trip that she met her true love. There were no formal introductions, just a split-second decision to jump into the same cab in Florence, Italy. “If I hadn’t had that aneurysm,” she said, “I would never have met my husband. It’s the mystery of God.”

How much does God shape the circumstances around us? Because I’m convinced he fervently loves us, I believe it’s constant. Every time we pray, “Thy will be done,” he jumps into action, arranging and rearranging the events of our days. I believe life is more than a series of hit-and-miss occurrences, because if it was, we’d be no more than victims of chance. That doesn’t blend well with what we know of our watchful, caring, personal God. Scripture says he’s so involved with our lives that even when we’re rolling dice, he’s the one controlling where they land.

So the next time you bump into an unexpected change of plans or even an irksome interruption, pause to think that God himself might be behind it, setting up something special, just for you.

“We may throw the dice,but the Lord determines how they fall.” (Proverbs 16:33)

Hanging with Mary

1947I’ve been blessed with a remarkable sister, though I didn’t fully appreciate her until she left home for college. Although Mary and I palled around as little kids and walked a similar path through childhood, by the time we hit our teens we realized how different we were. Walking the halls of New Trier High School, we often passed without even acknowledging each other. I had my friends, and she had hers. I had my room, and she had hers. I had my clothes, and she had hers.

1954

The real truth was I knew I could never live up to her reputation as “the good child,” but eventually her goodness worked in my favor. Proverbs says we should be careful who we hang with, because eventually we’ll become like them. Hanging out with Mary has tugged me “up” for nearly 7 decades.

After she left for college, I missed her more than I thought I would. We began writing letters to each other, a habit that lasted through “the mobile years” when we were attending college, getting married, moving frequently, and having babies. When our two families landed 4 miles apart for the long haul, face-time replaced letter-writing, and our 14 children were raised in a happy pack of sibling-like cousins.

2 + 2

Watching my sister up close in her roles as wife, mother, mentor, friend, worker, grandmother, and volunteer gives me an appreciation for her that began after high school and has grown ever since. I’ve accepted that I’ll never live up to her good reputation but because of that, I count her as one of my greatest blessings. And she isn’t just “my” sister, since she shares sister-like relationships with many others.

One thing all of us have gained by being close to Mary has been her pithy sayings, things like, “God doesn’t call the equipped; he equips the called.” She seems to have a nutshell-statement to fit every situation, each one linked with the wisdom of Scripture.

For example, tonight we shared a meal and then spent time organizing a 4th of July picnic. Moving from there into the rest of July and then into August, we met with frustration as we tried to put specifics on the calendar. One event bumped into another, and we couldn’t synchronize dates because of overlapping commitments, company coming and going, and travel schedules.

Finally Mary made one of her frequently-quoted, very useful statements: “Let’s let a little more time go by.” She (and now I) have said this so many times, it might be a fitting epitaph on our tombstones. It’s a way to lift immediate pressure and terminate whatever frustrating activity is going on at that moment. Then she added, “If we plan too much tonight, lots of it will unravel anyway, before we get there.”

At first glance, that sounds un-scriptural, but we talked it over, and sure enough, it’s in the Bible: “Don’t worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will bring its own worries.” (Matthew 6:34)

Amen, and let’s have dessert.