Developments with Mary

Seven weeks have passed since I last blogged about my sister Mary’s health. Against all medical odds, she has lived a very full and active life after her diagnosis of pancreatic cancer, feeling tip-top for 2½ years – until last week. 13938379_926581317094_5277760914017539555_nBefore then, she rode her bike to the beach where she built sand sculptures and played games with grandchildren. She even went tubing! She babysat for many of the children and continued to cook big meals and to entertain.     img_4103She had the energy to paint one of her bedrooms, and when the color didn’t turn out quite right, she returned to the store, bought different paint, and painted the whole thing again the next morning. But then last week arrived with a sudden onset of cancer symptoms. What had been occasional weak periods became constant. And it was difficult to sleep at night because she couldn’t get comfortable. Her abdomen filled with fluid, causing shortness of breath and extreme fatigue. She said, “Being short of breath like this gets so intense, I just can’t continue with what I’m doing. Climbing steps without stopping to catch my breath is impossible now.” Both she and her husband Bervin felt the time was right to sign up with the Michigan Hospice at Home group, which is the same organization that helped us so much when Nate was sick. Hospice responded with immediate help for Mary’s sleepless nights (a sleep aid) and her uncomfortable abdomen (a draining of the fluid). They have the desire and the expertise to deal with every symptom she will encounter, and both Mary and Bervin have strong confidence in them. Hospice’s continual question is, “What can we do for you?” Mary and Bervin have chosen to settle-in here in Michigan for the duration, in the cozy cottage where Mary and her family have come since the 1940’s. She’s enjoying the arrival of her favorite season with its cooler temperatures and beautiful trees. “We don’t know what the future holds,” she said today, “but are trusting God to see us through whatever comes.” She expresses continual appreciation for your many faithful prayers and hopes that you’ll continue. But her greatest comfort, even more than Hospice, is God himself. She’s written down her favorite Scriptures to cover any difficult days ahead, and when I asked for a sample, she recited this: You [Lord] will keep in perfect peace those whose minds are steadfast, because they trust in you. Trust in the Lord forever, for the Lord, the Lord himself, is the Rock eternal. (Isaiah 26:3-4) And here’s a concluding word from Bervin to all of you dear blog readers: img_4102Thank you, friends, for your love and concern for Mary. Some have asked if they could visit, but in the last few days her energy level has lessened substantially, so we are limiting company to family only.  I know how much Mary means to each of you, so please continue to pray for her and our family. As this news gets around, her email inbox has become jammed with messages and questions. Please understand that she cannot answer them all. Cards of encouragement, though, would be greatly appreciated… sent to our Chicago address. Your support and prayers have been such a blessing to us. Thank you, thank you, thank you. Berv, for all of us. The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases; his mercies never come to an end; they are new every morning; great is your faithfulness. “The Lord is my portion,” says my soul, “therefore I will hope in him.” (Lamentations 3:22-24)

18 thoughts on “Developments with Mary

  1. What a blessing that you all had 2 1/2 years of Mary doing so well. God continue to bless your whole family and give each of you strength and peace.

  2. I am praying, Mary, that you grow even closer to our Lord Jesus Christ, and that He speaks ever so tenderly to you and your family.

  3. Thanks for giving us the privilege of praying for Mary and Care-Givers. Jimmy Glauser and Pearl.

  4. Your neighbor across the street will be praying for peace and comfort for Mary, Berv, and your entire family.

  5. Mary, you are an inspiration to us all. I believe you will have a key position in that great end time heavenly army that God is preparing for his people.Praying for you and all your family, Dianne and Ben Lever

  6. Hi Margaret,

    Akin to Hezekiah, the Lord has given Mary an extension of life far beyond what you could have anticipated. That He is also giving Mary her favorite season in her family cottage near you is another mercy.
    Yet it is a severe mercy, and I am praying for Mary and her family and you and yours. May the Lord provide the same support as you all watch over Mary, as she did during your darkest hour.
    With much love,
    Terry

  7. My prayer are with you Mary and Berv.
    And my the peace of God which passes all understand
    guard your heart and mind in Christ Jesus.
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  8. This news saddens our hearts, but we know the Lord has been so very gracious with you. Our thoughts and prayers are always with you, our dear dear friends. May the Lord hold you all very close during these difficult days.
    With much love, Shel and Pat

  9. Margaret, please share this with Mary and Berv.
    Mary, I love you; not only for the person you are, but also for sharing this journey with us.
    Berv, thanks for being a wonderful man of God .
    It’s Sunday evening, and I’m praying for your peace, comfort, easy breathing, and no abdominal pain.
    Margaret, I love you, too!