Missing Kissing

One of the pleasures of being married is the unlimited kisses that come along with it. As a widow, I miss Nate’s kisses.

Although most widows are mum about the loss of intimacy after a husband dies, all of us miss it. But there are many other kinds of kisses besides those between husbands a wives. For example, in Scripture we see kings kissing their subjects, believers greeting each other with kisses, and Jesus being betrayed with a kiss. There are hello-kisses and goodbye-kisses, and kisses between parents and children.

God uses the imagery of a kiss to explain several other things to us. One particular passage is fascinating. In Psalm 85, the writer details the story of believers who’ve gone astray but have turned back toward the Lord and are ready to submit to him. The psalmist vividly describes God’s character in relation to these people who are eager to glean the benefits of a restored relationship with him:

“Steadfast love and faithfulness meet; righteousness and peace kiss each other. The Lord will indeed give what is good.” (Psalm 85:10, 12a)

Why did he use the word “kiss”? Maybe it’s because kisses bring two people together in a unique way like nothing else. Contact is close, intimate, personal. A kiss is full of affection and love.

The double meaning of this verse is that these qualities (and many others listed in the chapter) are melded together in God, but can also be ours when we operate “in the Lord,” when we get up close and personal with him. As we spend time with the One who loves steadfastly, is always faithful, is thoroughly righteous and who personifies peace, we take on bits of those characteristics, too.

Another interesting kiss-reference in the Bible is found in Proverbs:

“An honest answer is like a kiss on the lips.” (24:26)

Both honesty and kissing feel good, and the best kind of kisses are honestly loving ones. But he’s saying that if someone can rely on us to tell the truth, the result is as good as a kiss on the lips.

God knows some of us learn best through pictures. We widows may have lost touch with husbandly kisses, but we can benefit as much as the next person from understanding the scriptural kisses of the Lord.

“Greet one another with a kiss of love. Peace to all of you who are in Christ.” (1 Peter 5:14)

Light up my life.

If June is the month for June bugs, July belongs to the lightning bugs.

Our 4th of July family get-together took place in a back yard that stretched for 30 acres and included lots of fun. As we played egg toss and had water balloon fights after a dinner of grilled burgers and brats, the sun began to set. While we tried to wiggle Oreo cookies from our foreheads to our mouths, lightning bugs dotted the landscape.

 

And by the time our fireworks were being lit, fireflies competed en masse for our attention. Thousands of them flashed like glitter in the field, God’s holiday backdrop to our not-as-remarkable manmade explosives.

Surely God had fun when he created the lightning bug with its on-and-off glow. He must have known children would delight in his beetle-idea by collecting them in jars and using them as summertime night lights.

Catching them takes special skill, though, since they light up only intermittently and keep flying between flashes. Younger children find them to be elusive, difficult to catch. But a 10 year old knows just what to do: watch for the light, then anticipate where he’ll fly next and where he’ll be when he lights up again. A quick grab and he’s caught.

The light of God’s Word comes to us much the same way. We see a flash of wisdom in one verse and crave another, reading further, hoping to be “in place” when God lights up the next bit. If we’ve been paying attention and are ready, we grab for it and it’s ours to keep.

This year the lightning bugs have been especially prolific. May the light of God’s truth be every bit as abundant.
“Send out your light and your truth; let them guide me.” (Psalm 43:3a)

I feel like celebrating!

With four boys in the family, our driveway saw a steady stream of interesting and needy vehicles come and go. Each first-car was purchased with only hundreds of dollars rather than thousands and was sometimes held together with tape, wire and bungee cords.

By the time our younger girls needed wheels, their brothers were experienced bargain-hunters and facilitated the purchase of Louisa’s sky-blue Honda Accord, which she later sold to Birgitta. Despite the car being 13 years old, the boys assured the girls it was in its prime with “only” 145,000 miles, good for 200,000 more.

The little Honda has banked 72,000 toward those 200,000 without an issue until recently when the hood latch let go on the highway, flinging the hood up over the windshield with such force it shattered all the glass, bent the window frame and cracked the roof. (“In Sync with God,” June 7, 2011)

Because the incident occurred on a superhighway, police insisted the car be towed off the premises within 20 minutes. It was a high pressure situation during which Birgitta was traumatized, and I was missing Nate’s important input.

Towed to a body shop, the Accord appeared to be damaged beyond its humble value, so we let it go in exchange for tow fees and storage charges. But once I was back in Michigan, Klaus said, “Mom, you made the wrong call. The engine was still good.”

He arranged to have it free-towed 100 miles to Michigan where his buddy fixed it for under $400. It isn’t perfect but is quite acceptable. Then came the fun part: surprising Birgitta, which occurred this weekend.

As we arrived home well after midnight I said, “Remember the surprise I said you were getting? Well, there it is.”

“Where?” she said, looking around inside my car.

“Out the front window,” I said, watching her eyes squint in the dark. When she recognized her blue car, she covered her mouth with her hand, spit out a few words in an attempt to say what she was thinking, and squealed with delight. “My car! Is it my car? Is it still broken? Is it fixed?”

It was a spectacular surprise, thanks to Klaus, better than the best 4th of July fireworks show. Birgitta’s appreciation for her wheels has sky-rocketed, because what once was gone has been restored.

The whole thing reminds me of the three biblical stories Jesus told, one after the other, about restoration: the lost sheep, lost coin and lost son. (Luke 15) In each case the “find” generated a celebration. But Jesus made it clear he’d only told those stories to demonstrate one thing: that jubilant feeling of finding what was lost is exactly his feeling when someone repents of sin and comes to salvation.

After watching Birgitta get her car back, we know how that feels. And it feels really good!

“In the same way, I tell you, there is rejoicing in the presence of the angels of God over one sinner who repents.” (Luke 15:10)