Balancing Act

My grandson Micah was recently gifted with something I’d never seen before: a balancing bike. It resembles a small two-wheeler but has no pedals and relies on push-power to move.

Although Micah is only two, he took to it immediately and has learned to sail down the length of his driveway without taking a tumble. He shoves off, then lifts his feet, and whoosh, down he goes, managing the tricky art of balancing. At some point he’ll want a traditional bike with pedal-power, but for now he and his wheels are inseparable.

Parents find themselves coaching their young children to learn several other balance-related maneuvers too, the first of which is learning to sit up at about 6 months. After that it’s walking, pumping a swing, rollerblading, ice skating, and others, all needing balancing expertise.

Certain kids take to balancing naturally (like Micah) while others need prolonged assistance and encouragement. After children master the physical art of balancing (say, their pre-teen years), they’re ready for the much harder task of balancing their lives. For some, even that comes easily, but the rest of us struggle, wobbling or even crashing completely once in a while.

And that’s where God comes in.

Children don’t need him to hold the seat of a two-wheeler or run alongside, because he’s given that assignment to parents. His balance-assistance is for grown-ups, since we’re the ones so often doing it poorly by ourselves.

Years ago The Tonight Show’s host, Johnny Carson, invited a plate-spinning comedian to perform one of those chaotic demonstrations we all love, but this performer was absolutely the best. He kept a dozen plates spinning atop wiggly sticks while balancing three more on his forehead, nose, and chin.

Surely he’d had a triple-espresso before coming on stage. His body was a blur as he leapt back and forth along the sticks, rescuing some just seconds before they threatened to crash to the floor. He was a balancing aficionado.

Of course this isn’t what God means when he asks us to bring balance to our lives. But plate-spinning mania is often the way we feel day-to-day while trying to meet our varied commitments. So what do we do?

We follow Micah’s example, tackling one balancing act at a time. If he’d started with a balancing bike, a pedal bike, and a mountain bike all at once, he’d have been in for some nasty road rash. The same goes for spinning plates. Few is preferable to frenetic, and with the first broken plate, back-pedaling is our only solution.

All of us have limits on what we can accomplish, limited time, energy, money, motivation, skills. But if we let God hand us exactly what he wants us to balance, he’ll never let us tip out of balance. After that, if we add any “plates” against his advice, it won’t be long before we’ll need a broom, a dust pan, and a revised balancing-plan from the Lord.

“Letting the Spirit control your mind leads to life and peace.” (Romans 8:6)

To Love… or Not?

When a new baby comes to a family, preschool siblings are curious, wanting to touch, kiss, hold, and interact with this novel and interesting little bundle. Cameras click and parents are thrilled with the initial enthusiasm. But after several weeks, even the littlest big brother or sister begins to catch on.

Baby-cakes isn’t going away.

As a matter of fact, by taking up permanent residency, the baby has caused older siblings to be demoted. This new little person takes over Mommy completely and seems to be the only thing on her mind: “Talk quietly… Baby’s sleeping… Touch gently… That’s enough for now… Be careful…”

Mommy and Daddy ask, “Isn’t the baby wonderful?” while older children think, “How can we get rid of it.”

The children quickly learn the only way to stay on everybody’s good side is to fake a love for the baby, which most toddlers and preschoolers do well, at least for a while. Their heart isn’t in it, though, evidenced by kisses accompanied by too-tight squeezes and pats that closely resemble hits.

If we’re honest, we have to say that sometimes we view God in a similar way, as an intrusion in our lives. We know the relationship should be one of genuine love and devotion, but accepting him as he is can often feel like heavy pressure.

So we approach him in prayer and say the right words, but our hearts aren’t in it. We sit in church pretending to listen but sneak frequent peeks at our watches. We attend Bible study but tune out when we recognize what’s being taught and think we already know it.

Believers sometimes go through periods of complacency during which they feel far from God. Since he doesn’t leave us, the estrangement must be on our part. That doesn’t stop us from blaming him, however, if our prayers seem unheard and our spiritual vitality grows parched.

When a new baby arrives, parents insist the other children accept him, but God isn’t like that. He doesn’t force us to do anything we don’t want to do and won’t come into our lives at all unless personally invited. That means there’s no valid reason to feel negatively toward him. If we want him, he says we can have him, and if we don’t, we shouldn’t complain about being without him.

The Lord is always honest with us and wants us to be the same with him. It’s a relief to know there’s no need for pretense or for faking love. We aren’t preschoolers trying to act as if we adore a new baby. We’re grown-ups, and it’s up to us whether or not we want to love God.

And if we decide to love him, I’m fairly sure there’s no way to overdo it.

“There is no God like you in all of heaven above or on the earth below. You keep your covenant and show unfailing love to all who walk before you in wholehearted devotion.” (1 Kings 8:23)

 

A Heart’s Desire

My pregnant daughter glowed when she recounted the experience of watching her child’s heart beat for the first time. It happened at a clinic in her university town during an ultrasound test, completely taking her by surprise. At 6 weeks along, she’d expected to see only a tiny, dark spot on the screen, so when the tech pointed out a miniature beating heart, she was stunned.

Birgitta could see it clearly, though her baby was only 1/4“ long with a heart the size of a poppy seed. But never mind it’s miniscule size. Her emotional heart began beating for that little heart right then, and I can tell her from mothering experience it will beat like that until one or the other of them dies.

Research tells us a baby’s heartbeat begins just 21 days after conception. Considering the average baby needs about 280 days of development before it’s ready to be born, this information is mind-boggling. Something else astonishing about a pregnancy is that 2 beating hearts are enclosed in one person’s body. In the case of multiples, there are more.

Birgitta said that at her second ultrasound (at 12 weeks), the doctor began listening for her baby’s beating heart but first heard Birgitta’s. Its regular 60-something beats per minute represented a heart that had been working since poppy seed size within Birgitta, who had been within me, 22 years ago. Since that time it hasn’t shut down for even a few seconds and will probably beat millions of additional times in her future.

As the tech moved her wand across Birgitta’s tummy, gradually her own heartbeat faded and a different beat was heard, strong and steady like the first one but at a pace of 150-something beats per minute. Though small, it was already being faithful to its purpose.

We’ve all heard the expression, “two hearts beating as one,” used in reference to the bond of marriage or a close friendship. The 2 hearts beating inside Birgitta are in as close proximity as any two can be, literally inches apart, yet they’re distinctly separate. They’re definitely not beating as one. And though they’ll always be mother and child, they’ll remain two very different people throughout life.

The Bible has a great deal to say about hearts, the most significant of which is the heart of God. What we learn is that he knows the secrets in our hearts, but regardless of what’s hiding there, he also knows we have a strong longing for him. He put it there when he made us in his image, and when we move to satisfy that longing, he is pleased.

In other words, our hearts beat for him, and his heart beats for us. If there was ever a golden opportunity to hope two hearts might beat as one, this would be it.

“The Lord searches every heart and understands every desire and every thought. If you seek him, he will be found by you.” (1 Chronicles 28:9)