Just say yes.

The inference of being a “yes man” isn’t good, a person with no opinion of his own (at least not one he’s willing to share). It’s someone who gives in quickly and kowtows to others: “Yes sir. Yes ma’m. Whatever you say.”

Last week President Obama was looking for some yes-men in Congress. In a sound bite played repeatedly he said, “When is somebody on the other side of the aisle going to take ‘yes’ for an answer?”

We all love a “yes”. As my son Klaus puts it, “Green lights are better than red ones,” and generally that’s true. But the ultimate “yes” is the one we hope to get from God after laying out our requests. “Pleeease,” we say, then hope for a “yes” a.s.a.p.

But what about him? While he’s deciding to answer with a “yes” or “no”, is it possible he’s looking for a few yes-es from us in return? When he asks if we’re willing to do something difficult or fight a painful battle, do we tell him “yes” or “no”?

Henry Blackaby puts it well in his book EXPERIENCING PRAYER WITH JESUS: “Let this be your heart’s desire: ‘Lord, whatever you say, my answer is yes, because that’s the only worthy response to you’.” So we’re supposed to become yes-men? Yes-women?

As I read that statement from the comfort of my lazy-boy, feet up, Coke Zero in hand, I could say, “Whatever it is, Lord! I’ll say ‘yes’!”

But when Nate got rapid-growth pancreatic cancer and was told he had only a short time to live, it wasn’t quite as easy to give an affirmative response. Later, when he began failing and God asked if I was willing to be a widow, my response was far from affirmative: “Do I have to?”

In life’s battle-trenches, we feel we’re doing well for God if we go through trouble without raging at him. But the response he longs to see during our suffering (nearly impossible) is a strong “yes”, even if spoken through tears.

Despite my own failures, I think success is more likely if I keep telling the Lord I want to be a yes-woman for him.  If I’ve said the yes-word long before I’ve hit the suffering, then, when the pain begins, my will tries to follow the verbal commitment. It might only be “Yes, I’ll try,” or “Yes, I hope so,” but if my “yes” beats me to the trouble, one of these days I’ll do it right when I get there.

Jesus modeled it perfectly: “Not what I want, Father, but ‘yes’ to your will for me, no matter how excruciating.” And that’s the enthusiastic yes-response God hopes he’ll see in all of us.

“Yes, Lord, walking in the way of your laws, we wait for you; your name and renown are the desire of our hearts.” (Isaiah 26:8)

Can we fail?

This week my friend got some shocking news. Cancer has invaded several of her major organs, and short of God’s intervention, her prognosis is terminal.

Thankfully she’s a Christian and believes wholeheartedly that either way, live or die, cancer or healing, her faith in God will carry her through. And I hope it will.

Today I prayed for her out of Psalm 27: “The Lord is my light… I will fear no one… I will not be afraid… I will trust God… marvel at his goodness… ask for his guidance… triumph over my enemies… sing and praise Him.” I prayed these things would be true for her as the future unfolds and that her trust in God won’t weaken.

Apparently there’s a chance Christians can lose their faith. I don’t mean lose salvation, just their hope in the Lord. After a terminal cancer diagnosis, it’s easy to become downcast, weak or defeated. If that weren’t a possibility, Jesus himself wouldn’t have demonstrated how to pray against it.

In Luke 22, we see him detailing last minute instructions to his dearest friends, the 12 disciples. They’ve finished sharing the Passover meal and within minutes Jesus will leave the room and walk to Gethsemane where he’ll begin suffering intensely for you, for me, and for these 12.

His time on earth is running out, and surely there’s urgency in his voice, no doubt making the men uncomfortable. He tells them that shortly a friend will betray him, after which he’ll be intensely tortured, then forced to sacrifice his own body and blood.

Certainly the men, sitting in the glow of gentle lamp light with full bellies, don’t want to hear this. They quickly change the subject, but Jesus, possibly on the edge of irritation, needs their full attention and does his own subject-changing. “Satan has asked to sift each of you like wheat.” (v. 31, NLT)

And suddenly they’re hanging on his every word thinking, “You mean our names came up in a conversation between you and Satan?” This would alarm any of us. But it’s Jesus’ next statement that should have concerned them most. “I have pleaded in prayer for you, Simon, that your faith should not fail.”

We learn by following the story that despite Jesus having already prayed for Peter, he does fail, causing heartache for Jesus and anguish for Peter. How many of the others failed, too? How many lost hope in Jesus and behaved accordingly?  How many of us? What about my friend?

To know Jesus is praying strong faith into us today increases our determination to hang onto him tighter, no matter what’s going on around us… even if it’s terminal cancer.

I’m going to pray for my friend the same way Jesus prayed for his, that her faith won’t fail, from now until the very end.

“Teach me, Lord, what you want me to do, and lead me along a safe path. I know that I will live to see the Lord’s goodness in this present life.” (Psalm 27:11,13)

I feel like celebrating!

With four boys in the family, our driveway saw a steady stream of interesting and needy vehicles come and go. Each first-car was purchased with only hundreds of dollars rather than thousands and was sometimes held together with tape, wire and bungee cords.

By the time our younger girls needed wheels, their brothers were experienced bargain-hunters and facilitated the purchase of Louisa’s sky-blue Honda Accord, which she later sold to Birgitta. Despite the car being 13 years old, the boys assured the girls it was in its prime with “only” 145,000 miles, good for 200,000 more.

The little Honda has banked 72,000 toward those 200,000 without an issue until recently when the hood latch let go on the highway, flinging the hood up over the windshield with such force it shattered all the glass, bent the window frame and cracked the roof. (“In Sync with God,” June 7, 2011)

Because the incident occurred on a superhighway, police insisted the car be towed off the premises within 20 minutes. It was a high pressure situation during which Birgitta was traumatized, and I was missing Nate’s important input.

Towed to a body shop, the Accord appeared to be damaged beyond its humble value, so we let it go in exchange for tow fees and storage charges. But once I was back in Michigan, Klaus said, “Mom, you made the wrong call. The engine was still good.”

He arranged to have it free-towed 100 miles to Michigan where his buddy fixed it for under $400. It isn’t perfect but is quite acceptable. Then came the fun part: surprising Birgitta, which occurred this weekend.

As we arrived home well after midnight I said, “Remember the surprise I said you were getting? Well, there it is.”

“Where?” she said, looking around inside my car.

“Out the front window,” I said, watching her eyes squint in the dark. When she recognized her blue car, she covered her mouth with her hand, spit out a few words in an attempt to say what she was thinking, and squealed with delight. “My car! Is it my car? Is it still broken? Is it fixed?”

It was a spectacular surprise, thanks to Klaus, better than the best 4th of July fireworks show. Birgitta’s appreciation for her wheels has sky-rocketed, because what once was gone has been restored.

The whole thing reminds me of the three biblical stories Jesus told, one after the other, about restoration: the lost sheep, lost coin and lost son. (Luke 15) In each case the “find” generated a celebration. But Jesus made it clear he’d only told those stories to demonstrate one thing: that jubilant feeling of finding what was lost is exactly his feeling when someone repents of sin and comes to salvation.

After watching Birgitta get her car back, we know how that feels. And it feels really good!

“In the same way, I tell you, there is rejoicing in the presence of the angels of God over one sinner who repents.” (Luke 15:10)