KAN-DO, Aftermath

Every mission trip is a risk. Whether or not it qualifies as “successful” depends on each individual’s expectations.Our family mission trip to Greensburg, Kansas included 31 people and 31 different expectations, some high, some low.

When the initial idea for a Christmas service project began circulating among us via email, several responded resoundingly in the negative: “I’m flying home to spend Christmas… at home. My vote is not to go.”

Others were enthusiastic: “Great idea! Count me in!“

My personal prayers were for each of us to step closer to the Lord from wherever we currently stood as a result of the trip. In reality, we landed somewhere short of that but did, I believe, accomplish some valuable results.

Much of our construction work was done on a home being built to replace one lost in the storm. The new house, paid for by homeowner’s insurance, was going to be gorgeous with a room-sized entryway, a stone fireplace wall, an exposed staircase and a sizeable kitchen. Although this family wasn’t financially needy, emotionally they were starving.

The first day we worked at drywalling, taping and spackling, but several of our workers had sour attitudes. “These people don’t need us,” they said. “What are we doing here?”

But when the owners came to greet us and thank us for coming, the wife described their four minutes of terror as the monster tornado roared through town. She broke down and wept as she told of their fear for family members when they couldn’t bring everyone together. One of their children still hasn’t returned to Greensburg because she can’t shake nightmares about the tornado. Another was making plans to move away permanently.

Before we left at the end of the week, this same woman asked if we would all put our signatures on the concrete walls of her new basement storm shelter. During the next tornado (and there are many in Kansas), she knew they’d all be edgy, even protected by walls two feet thick. But, she said, “I’ll gain courage by rereading your names, remembering the love that prompted you to help us.”

Was it really love? For some it was, “I don’t want to go, but know I should, so I will.” Was there a positive result even for these?

Those of our children who’ve been on many mission trips say there’s always a mixed bag of results. One important benefit is being required to live in community with others around the clock. This includes a willingness to eat simply and occasionally not at all. It means sleeping on the floor, waiting for the bathroom and being patient to teach others how to do the work. All of this happened with excellence on our mission trip.

I also remember watching unusual conversational groups pop up as we worked on four teams. Mild competition injected laughter into the tasks, and evening get-togethers saw high school kids partnering with oldsters, and babies in the arms of non-baby people. Cousins with a decade of years between them talked and came to appreciate each other in new ways. Extended time with family and without access to cell phones or computers was unique in our history, a tremendous blessing.  All of these unexpected benefits are treasured still.

Would we ever do it again?

In a minute.

”Serve the Lord with gladness. Be thankful unto him, and bless his name.” (Psalm 100:2,4)

KAN-DO, Preparation

The following account of our family mission trip (Christmas of 2007) was written for a church presentation shortly before we climbed onto a cruiser bus and left the Chicago suburbs for five days in Kansas:

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“On Labor Day weekend this year, our family began brainstorming about how we could get away from the materialism of the holidays, the shopping, spending, competition and so on. The rush to buy gifts for each other every year and to get together at one party after another for ourselves seemed more and more off point. A couple of our thirty-somethings suggested we focus on helping someone who was needy, since none of us need anything.


“Long story short, 31 of us, ages 68 down to 5 months old and all related, will be leaving on Christmas Eve in a rented coach bus to drive 15 hours from Chicago to Greensburg, Kansas. A mile-wide tornado mowed down the entire town last summer.

“We’ll be gone for five days and will be dry-walling, painting, cleaning up yards and anything else the people in Greensburg will ask us to do. We’ll be sleeping on the floor in a church basement ten miles down the road. We’re funding the trip with the money we would have used to buy Christmas gifts for each other, and this year there are no gifts under the tree. We’ve created a group motto, which is ‘Working together as a family for the benefit of others.’


“People have asked if this is a mission trip. It’s more like an experiment, something new for us. We’re trying to approach Christmas in the way Jesus would, setting aside the shopping, gifts, wrapping, spending and overeating in exchange for service hours that will benefit someone else.

We’re hoping good things will come of our labor for those in Kansas but also good stuff amongst ourselves as we join together for a common purpose while working and living in tight quarters. It’ll be a stretch, but we feel God has been involved in the planning and has some surprise blessings ready for each person involved.

“Some of our family members are excited and enthusiastic about the trip while others are skeptical but are going anyway. Our family newspaper, The Kansas Chronicle, has conducted contests, outlined medical advice, forecasted Kansas weather, shared packing lists, detailed prayer requests and explained the history of Kansas.

“Each team member, in addition to working on construction crews, has an additional job: photographer, nurse, videographer, journalist, cell phone control, food prep, child care, budget chief, athletic director, program director and more. One of the cousins won a ‘Name-Our-Trip’ contest with KAN-DO… ‘kan’ for Kansas and ‘do’ for ‘We can do it!’ “

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When we arrived in Greensburg, what we found was utter destruction.

Tomorrow’s blog: How did it go?

“Whatever your hand finds to do, do it with all your might, for in the realm of the dead, where you are going, there is neither working nor planning nor knowledge nor wisdom.” (Ecclesiastes 9:10)

Beach Bonfire

Christmas celebrations at the beach might be popular in Honolulu or San Diego, but in Michigan not so much.

But our family has been seeking to establish new holiday traditions this year, after last year’s failures. Holding onto “the way we’ve always done it” without the head of our family who “always did it with us” was a disaster last year, so this year we started from scratch. After all, we’re a different family now, minus Nate and plus our three new babies.

Today, on Christmas afternoon, we made a fire at the beach in 28 degree weather, taking the little ones along and having a great time sledding down the small dunes. Nelson and Lars packed firewood in the pick-up and asked for an hour’s head start to get the fire going. It took us almost that long to dress five babies in their winter gear, and when we arrived with hot coffee and cookies, the fire was blazing.

Skylar remembered last summer’s visit to this same beach, and as she came over the dune she shouted, “Let’s get stones!” Unfortunately they were cemented to the sand by icy snow, although she quickly lost interest when her mittened fingers couldn’t pick them up anyway.

Our new tradition was 100% successful without tears or complaints from even the littlest ones, and I hope we can have a beach bonfire every Christmas Day.

All of us remembered last year’s holiday season with pain as we talked about our first Christmas without Nate, coming only seven weeks after he died. It’s been a challenging year with many ups and downs, and we’re thankful to be where we are today rather than in the sad holiday season of a year ago.

I like to think about God watching over us throughout our lives, knowing every circumstance that’ll come to each of us. He saw death take our husband and father decades before we knew anything about Nate’s cancer, and when the time came, God chose not to stop it. But he also saw today’s happy afternoon on a frosty beach and heard our laughter years before it came out of our mouths.

More than just seeing today, though, he also planned it, set it into motion, and supplied the stamina for us to get from the difficult Christmas of 2009 to the much better Christmas of 2010.

Our first choice would have been to have Nate with us in addition to our three new babies, but that family wasn’t one of our available choices. So we continue to make adjustments, looking for God’s steady blessing as we go, and today’s beach party was one of his good ones.

”No one is abandoned by the Lord forever. Though he brings grief, he also shows compassion because of the greatness of his unfailing love. For he does not enjoy hurting people or causing them sorrow.” (Lamentations 3:31-33)