The words “unplanned pregnancy” are code for “out of wedlock,” which is what’s happening within my daughter Birgitta right now at 16 weeks pregnant. But “out of wedlock” babies aren’t the only ones that arrive “unplanned.”
Among my own 7 children several were unplanned pregnancies. Five, to be exact. Birgitta herself was unplanned, since I’d had a tubal ligation before she came. Although I eventually had a reversal, Nate and I didn’t know whether or not additional children would come. (Photo: Baby Birgitta)
What’s the difference between planned and unplanned pregnancies?
In reading Scripture we see that children are always considered a blessing, planned or otherwise. When God wanted to reward a woman for righteous living, the best gift he could think of was a baby. And when he was arranging salvation for all mankind, the idea he settled on was to send his Son… as a baby, by way of an unplanned pregnancy.
Babies are extremely important to God, a truth laced throughout the Bible. Caring for the children he sends, especially for their spiritual welfare, should be one of our highest priorities.
Nate and I used to attend a church whose pastor understood this. He spoke to his congregation on “Recruitment Sunday” (when every Sunday school class needed new volunteers) and said, “No adult should be sitting in a class for grown-ups if even one helper is still needed in the children’s department.” He agreed with God’s priorities. We’re to love, instruct, and nurture all children with equal care, since he has his own plans for every life, not just for those who were “planned” by their parents.
Last week a blog reader shared something extra special about our coming baby (on “Timing is everything”):
7 is the perfect number…
7th child having the 7th grandchild…
Thank you, reader, for that smile-worthy insight. Birgitta and I have both enjoyed it, and I know our little one will get a kick out of it someday, too. God was probably the one prompting you to write it so we’d all know how keenly he’s been involved in this “surprise” pregnancy.
My 7th grandchild may grow up to ask some tough questions that are difficult to answer, but comments like the one above will bring light-heartedness into what might have been a stressful conversation. Birgitta has already begun preparing for these questions by keeping a scrapbook of encouraging comments and messages sent our way. And if this child should ever ask, “Did you really want me, Mommy?” Birgitta will be ready with her “yes!” backed up by the “yeses” of many others.
And then she can give her child the best news of all by saying, “There’s also one who wanted you even more than all the rest of us, and it’s God himself.”
“Even before he made the world, God loved us and chose us in Christ to be holy and without fault in his eyes.” (Ephesians 1:4)